Authentic. Unapologetic. Alive
 

Solfire Catalyst 


Reclaim your power and step proudly and unapologetically into your full self.

A space for people pleasers  to move beyond burnout, overwhelm and emotional exhaustion into confidence & freedom.
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Having needs does not make you "needy" and having them met is not a privilege.
You deserve to be seen, loved, and cared for without fear or guilt.

It’s time to say goodbye and good-fucking-riddance to:

  • Saying “yes” when your whole body wants to say no
  • Sacrificing your health, mental well-being, finances, and time to make sure everyones needs are met (except your own)
  • Trying to be a mind reader - anticipating everyone else’s needs and solving their problems before they ever say a word
  • Looking for hidden messages every time someone speaks (You’re sure you heard a tone in their voice!)
  • Hiding the parts of you that feel big, loud, “needy” or unlovable

You get to feel trusted, seen, loved and cared for as ALL of you.

You get to say no and not only have that be respected - but your honesty will allow others in your life to be open and honest in return. Relationships become reciprocal, mutually supportive, and full of deep, loving communication to ensure everyone is being truly cared for.

You get to communicate all your needs and have them met both by yourself and those around you.

Without guilt or fear.
Without doubting your worth or being afraid of backlash.

This is what life looks like on the other side of people pleasing.
This is what you get to have with strong boundaries, an unshakeable internal foundation built on self-trust, and learning how to care for your nervous system so your mind and body can finally relax and rest.

I used to think that if I could hide away the “needy” parts of myself - if I could make myself seem like I needed nothing while being able to endlessly provide then I would be worthy. I would be useful.

I could take all the pain from my family and friends, so they didn’t have to hurt. I could solve their problems, carry them through their sadness, anger, and disappointments.

I could be strong.
The protector.

My partners would cancel on date nights, stay out with friends and come see me when it was convenient – all without complaint from me. I was a “cool girlfriend”. They bragged that I was “chill”.

All the while my inner voice was a fucking monster. I was unhappy and resentful, I had lost my sense of who I was and I was tired all. the. time.

Of course, my mind told me that if I was MORE I would be happier.
If I could help more, give more, show up more

The straw that truly broke my back through? When I realized that all I was doing was enabling the people I loved. I realized that what I thought had been helpful love and support might end up killing someone that meant the world to me. I wasn’t being kind, caring, honest, or supportive. I wasn’t at all who I wanted to be. I knew I had to make a change.


So I said no.


And I didn’t turn to dust and blow away.
I didn’t suddenly get abandoned by everyone I loved. 

I learned that I could put myself first, and that when I loved myself deeply others could and would do the same. I took care of my mind, my body, my nervous system and my soul.

I began to spend time with myself and relearn what I loved to do and what brought me joy.

I relit the fire in my soul, and I will never dim it for anyone again.

Love is not measured by how many hits you can take, or how much use you can be to others.

Introducing...

Solfire Catalyst 

The 3 month high-touch hybrid program to help you develop unshakeable confidence, and learn to set and hold rock-solid boundaries so you can start putting yourself first and live a life of authenticity, true connection, and freedom.

You will learn how to escape the burnout and exhaustion of living in fight or flight, how to understand and regulate your nervous system and how to live a life of mental, emotional, and physical health + wellness

This is the space where you come back home to your yourself and learn to be the wild, fierce, fun, incredible human that you lost touch with trying to please everyone but yourself.

This is where you set your soul on fire.

Most coaches and programs will tell you it's just a matter of mindset or using the right words to say “no”. But it goes so much deeper. My background as a Registered Massage Therapist working with people’s bodies, nervous systems AND minds has allowed me to build a method where you get to heal from the ground up, creating a literal foundation for your new patterns and beliefs that will withstand anything life throws your way.
You will leave having reclaimed your power, showing up unapologetically as your authentic self, and connecting to others more deeply than ever before.

This is what freedom feels like.

No more fear, no more hiding, no more masks.

I'm so fucking ready.
*Once you click this button, you’ll be taken directly to the application form. You’ll be asked a few questions to see if you’re a good fit and will be given the price of the program. If it's a good match, we'll reach out to you within 48 hours and discuss next steps for enrollment.

The Solfire Method:

 Phase 01: The Foundation

This is where we do the heavy lifting. Rebuilding your sense of self and discovering who you are under all the layers of guilt, fear and shame. The work we do here to connect you with your soul fire is what will support the new patterns and beliefs that come with reclaiming your power.

 Phase 02: The Frame

In Phase 02 you'll learn all about your nervous system. How it actually works, why regulating it holds the key to growth and empowering your empathy and how to feel your feelings (not the same old crap you've been shown before!) in a way that will allow you to experience all of life fully with joy and peace.

 Phase 03: The House

Building on the nervous system work, Phase 3 is where you learn the power behind the somatic journey. You’ll learn how to identify emotions in your body, how to read the physical signals your nervous system is sending out, and how to feel your feelings (not the same old crap you've been shown before!) in a way that will allow you to experience all of life fully while feeling safe and supported no matter what you’re experiencing.

 Phase 04: The (de)Fences

In this final phase you learn everything you need to know about boundaries. What they are, how to set them, how to hold them and when to compromise in a way that will never leave you lacking. You will also learn how to deal with Boundary Blowback and confrontation without burning out or falling back into old habits.

When you join Solfire Catalyst you'll receive:

Weekly Worksheets & Videos

Each phase has 4 separate topics to cover (One week each) and each topic has it's own "homework" with a video explanation to ensure that you are supported as you learn to apply and embody the changes in your life.

Access to the Solfire Family

When you join Solfire Catalyst you  become part of the Family! You receive access to a private community with weekly lives, deeper dives into a variety of topics and peer support from people working on the same goals as you.

Weekly 1:1 Coaching Calls

For the duration of the container you will receive weekly coaching calls via Zoom where we will explore personalized support and guidance tailored for your specific needs. These calls will be recorded and available to you for lifetime replay/review.

Direct Support via Voice & Text


And finally, you will have direct access to Melissa between group and 1:1 calls via messenger app to receive advice on pressing questions, guidance through sticky new challenges and additional support when you need it.

You will also receive these  additional bonuses:

  • Guided Meditation Recordings 

    You will receive a recorded guided meditation focused on rediscovering and connecting with the most powerful version of yourself - beyond the people pleasing and the burnout. Also included is an additional recorded progressive relaxation meditation to help lower your stress responses and allow you to rest more deeply. Great for sleeping or ending a long day!

  • A Bag of Cat/Dog Food Donated in Your Honour
    One of the most important causes to me is animal welfare and I bring that through in my business by donating a bag of food to a local animal shelter for each of my students in every enrollment. Cat or dog food, your choice! 
    Let this represent how much help you can give back when you choose to help yourself first.
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*Once you click this button, you’ll be taken directly to the application. You’ll be asked a few questions to see if you’re a good fit and will be given the price of the program. If you're the right fit, we'll reach out to you within 48 hours and discuss next steps for enrollment. 

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I'm going to be real with you here...


If you’ve gotten to this point, you want this. You’re ready.
I know it, and I believe somewhere deep inside, you do too.
You crave the support to make the change and finally leave people pleasing in your past. 

So jump.

One of the first things you’ll learn in Solfire Catalyst – if you haven’t already learned it from being in my world – is that your nervous system is a dirty trickster that keeps you “safe” by keeping things the same.
Even if that means keeping you stuck in a people-pleasing burnout loop forever, because hey…you’re alive aren’t you? That’s good enough for your nervous system. But it’s not good enough for your soul.

You deserve to do so much more than just survive.
You deserve to fucking thrive.

Frequently Asked Questions

That's it, I'm in!
*Once you click this button, you’ll be taken directly to the application. You’ll be asked a few questions to see if you’re a good fit and will be given the price of the program. If you're the right fit, we'll reach out to you within 48 hours and discuss next steps for enrollment.

This is so much more than a mindset course.

In this step by step 12 week program you will: 

  • Build radical confidence so you stop hiding parts of yourself from the world
  • Connect with the people in your life more deeply and meaningfully so you can receive the care and love you give out so freely
  • Realign with your core values, retrain your inner voice, and create unparalleled self-trust so you can stand up for what you believe in with conviction and without shame or self sacrifice
  • Understand and regulate your nervous system to leave burnout in the ashes
  • Say no without guilt and finally put yourself first
  • Love and be loved without conditions or strings